Simply Put, “You Can’”

 The Most Beautiful Writing I Have Done and The Truest Words I’ll Ever Speak I think this is worthy to read. 

A very special couple that I had the true honor to meet last night pointed out somethings in these pictures that I had not given much thought to. Sometimes you just need a different prospective  to see what years of pain and heartache can sometimes erase from your memory. I remember this day like it was yesterday “My Beautiful Wedding Day” and I smile in my heart at what I see and years of what I have felt. Grief takes you through many emotional roller coasters giving you highs and lows that make you think your going to drown, In reality so does life. You will hit many highs an lows through a lifetime some will make you feel like your drowning in sorrow, others will make you think your walking on air. Grief actually is no different other than walking on this side of the road gives a whole new meaning to what that side does. It gives you the true desires of your heart over here because what you see on this side is what you wasted on that one. There is real true meaning in the words “If I could go back in time, and know then what I know now”. The real true honesty is you can’t, it’s not possible to have looked at these pictures and imagined me with him. A heart could not take that pain over on that side of the road (metaphorically speaking). A heart longs for what it can’t have much worse than it does when it is freely there to take advantage of. We all think we love without measure sadly I will tell you we don’t! Yep that’s right we do mot love in life the way we do in death. It’s been almost 21 months on this journey and only now am I waking up to the real reality of what it all means. I’m looking at a picture of my wedding day longing for this kind of love when in truth I had it yet did not know what I had at all. Philip, was busting inside his shirt with so much love for me as I walked down the staircase to the marry my best friend, the laughter we shared while lighting “Our Families Together“ was a moment in time that would carry us through some of the worse heartaches I have ever experienced, yet love saw me through (this far I’ll add). Never in a million years would I have been laughing and so deeply happy if I had of known what the other side would have looked like. “You Can’t, You Can’t, You Can’t”. We are all human and we all walk a journey that leads to the other side of the road, either by our parents, grandparents, children, grandchildren, aunts, uncles, cousins etc... but you get the meaning to what I’m saying. True reality for me is not true reality for you, because everyone walks on a different road and our paths may sometimes cross, but “You Can’t” change the destination! 

It’s a peaceful thought to have been blessed by God to meet such inspiring people along my path, some more precious than others some more determined than others, some have walked on the other side of the road and stop to tell about their journey, yet “You Can’t” grasp what they already know. 

Xoxo

Patti Martin Hardy

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